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No One Is Coming, It Is Up To Us

No One Is Coming, It Is Up To Us

We have a design for a 22-acre park and memorial. We’re ready. I sit here reading a social media post knowing this park and memorial has been the most significant public effort toward honoring the service of and sacrifices of those who died by suicide.  It will...

“Widow”

“Widow”

Until April 2009, I considered myself lucky to have not lost anyone close to me. Sadly, the loss of my Dad to leukemia was the start of an exceedingly difficult period of loss. He died only four weeks before my wedding. I then suffered the losses of my Grandpa,...

Not All Flags Are Equal

Not All Flags Are Equal

This week is National Police Week and May 15th is National Peace Officers Memorial Day.  Families across this country have received a folded flag that once rested on a law enforcement officer’s casket.  I imagine they each go through a variety of...

How did I get here?

How did I get here?

Some have said, “it wasn’t your fault, it was the choice that he made.” But are they really sure? I may not have pulled the trigger, but I know somewhere I had to be the one that pushed him. I was the one that forced him to see the doctor. I made him seek help. Maybe...

Suicide’s Unanswered Questions

Suicide’s Unanswered Questions

Everyone has a different experience. Mine is not exactly the same as anyone else’s, nor is it exactly different. I’m not a first responder so I didn’t face the same challenges, but I believe we can all learn something from each other. I don’t walk around and tell my...

“Cumulative Trauma” My Story

“Cumulative Trauma” My Story

When began my law enforcement career in 1994,  I had no idea the toll daily exposure to traumatic events would cause.  At that time, mental health was never talked about nor was it mentioned in the police academy; the attitude was to “suck it up”. The first...

2020 – Year In Review

2020 – Year In Review

Here at Blue H.E.L.P., we aim to honor officers lost to suicide and support the families left behind, educate the public to bring awareness to mental health issues and reduce the stigma, lead in advocating for benefits for those suffering from post-traumatic stress,...

What is a Law Enforcement Career?

What is a Law Enforcement Career?

What is a Law Enforcement career? Service to the community, the dedication to the brothers and sisters in blue, or is it the fulfillment of something more personal. I have spent a lifetime, a career of walking that thin blue line; life and death, justice, and...

Heart, Lung, and Brain Bill?

Heart, Lung, and Brain Bill?

One of the biggest debates many agencies and organizations that support those left behind by an officer’s suicide is should this be a line of duty death.  Blue H.E.L.P. doesn’t debate this, we have already made up our mind.  When an officer is hired, they go...

Holiday Thoughts

Holiday Thoughts

It’s been three and a half years since Steve died by suicide. Thanksgiving week is always hard for me because it’s the halfway mark- Halfway through another year without him. Halfway through another year as a widow (I still hate that word and don’t think I’ll ever...

What Can Agencies Do?

What Can Agencies Do?

We often find ourselves doing nothing because we do not know where to start.  When I am asked what agencies should be doing, I often start with first they need to recognize better from worse.  It is truly that simple for many of the decisions we make that...

#MindsetMonday – Dr. Jeff McGill

#MindsetMonday – Dr. Jeff McGill

What can agencies do? We often find ourselves doing nothing because we do not know where to start.  When I am asked what agencies should be doing, I often start with first they need to recognize better from worse.  It is truly that simple for many of the decisions we...